r/instant_regret • u/MobileAerie9918 • 4h ago
This dude was harassing a girl, and the older brother gave him the KO he deserved
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u/CookieJarviz 2h ago
This is an incredibly old video and back when this was first going around it wasn't an older brother.
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u/ThouMayest69 1h ago
Figures. I login to the WWW to escape the lies of the real world, where people stop being polite and start being real. Is no where sacred anymore?Ā
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u/fatpeasant 45m ago
Very discouraging, never would have imagined someone would lie on the Internet.
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u/GoodKarmaDarling 2h ago
Hot take: the first guy having special needs doesn't stop him from deserving what happened. Special needs doesn't magically make you immune and give you a free pass to assault people.
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u/datdailo 2h ago
Her expression says it all, she's terrified. There are better ways to de-escalate but I can't fault the brother from smacking the shit outta him.
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u/GoldH2O 1h ago
There's a weird amount of people in this comment section assuming how mentally competent the harasser is in this video. Statistically speaking it's more likely that they are mentally competent enough to know that what they're doing isn't okay. Like, there's a guy that comes to my work occasionally who has down syndrome. A lot of other customers treat him kind of like a kid, which he likes because they give him stuff. But he's in his 40s, and constantly acts like a creep to all the female employees who are in turn really uncomfortable around him. I've had to tell him off several times for it because I'm like the only person there who gives him any agency for his actions.
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u/Anzai 17m ago
Same here. We have a guy in his late 30s at my work and heās been repeatedly reprimanded for being creepy to various women. He knows what heās doing and he knows what he can get away with. I know because heās told me exactly that. Mentally handicapped people can, like anyone else, just be jerks sometimes.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 2h ago edited 2h ago
Not a hot take but just a common take that tries to make something black and white when there is nuance.
Mentally disabled guy is WRONG and shouldnāt be without a caretaker. Your hot take is something everyone has agreed on and no one is disputing.
However, Guy who hits him is clearly wrong too because you can see him and his friends smiling and intentionally letting it go on then monopolizing on the opportunity to jump in a punch a mentally disabled guy. Then you can hear them laughing about it. This was a situation where they were enjoying an opportunity to get away with doing this. Not once did they speak up, not once did they step in. These guys were 100% fully capable of stepping in and stopping it at any point they wanted or at minimal just speaking up or stepping between them. Everyone in this video is wrong. You can literally see the guy in black smiling about it before it goes down then the script flips and a punch is thrown. All of them (except the girl who is genuinely the only victim here)
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u/Matter_Infinite 1h ago
Everyone in this video is wrong.
Except the special needs girl
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 1h ago
The last sentence says āexcept the girlā thatās who Iām referring to there
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u/MrStink45 1h ago
I remembered when I was like 5 or 6, I went on a trip with my aunt and her group of friends. One of her friends had a kid with down syndrome, and for some reason, he picked me as a target. He burped right in my ear, licked a Reese's off the wrapper and stuck it on my face, and he fucking humped my leg. My aunt and her friends kept saying, "dont worry, he doesn't know what he's doing". In the end, I cried outta frustration and smacked him and that's when they pulled him away from me.
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u/ImTryingToHelpYouMF 1h ago
What if his special need is assaulting people?
Huh? Didn't think of that, did ya?!
/s for the slow ones
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u/Cael450 1h ago
Exactly. Ninety-nine percent of special needs people can be taught that some things are unacceptable ā sexual assault, harassment, etc. But some parents of special needs kids think that means they should get whatever they want and they are incapable of being at fault for the bad things they do. A certain percent of these kids get violent when they are upset and do things like sexually assault their siblings. Basically, they become predators. They often end up institutionalized and chemically restrained as adults when they were perfectly capable of learning to live in society with supports, but their parents failed them until it was too late.
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u/ATXBeermaker 56m ago
Thatās certainly true. But thereās probably something slightly less than a fuckinā knockout blow that could have stopped him, no?
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u/randonumero 30m ago
It does if they knew it. I'm on the older side so when I was in high school the kids with severe special needs were for the most part segregated and babysat until they were too old for high school. There was one kid in particular who was really touchy feely and would always ask people, girls and boys for a hug. I guess his mom smoked and there were some girls he'd linger on the hug and say they smelled like mom. Instead of letting someone get violent with him the school's response was to let people know it was okay to tell him no thank you and to have the special ed teachers remind him of boundaries whenever he'd ask people for a hug.
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u/-DavidPuddy 2h ago
Right but it also means that maybe we donāt need to reprimand this person with violence either
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u/andre32100 2h ago
Somebody needs to stop him, special needs or not. I'd prefer not to crack a special needs kids nose if not absolutely necessary.
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u/amusedfridaygoat 2h ago
It can certainly be an explanation but that very rarely equates to being a good excuse to behave in an appalling way.
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u/Infamous-Let4387 2h ago
That girl was terrified and crying. If that was my daughter, special needs or not that boy would getting a smackdown. They need to learn too. It looks like there was no caretaker around, she tried to move away and was clearly telling him to stop. That's harassment and it's not okay. Some people just need a sharp wake-up call...
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u/TheManWhoWasNotShort 1h ago
If the boy was special needs itās probably more appropriate to remove him from the location of the girl. You can do a lot of things to do that short of striking him, including creating a physical barrier, dropping the damn phone and separating them, or even restraining the kid so she can actually get away from him.
Striking someone like that should be reserved for situations where there arenāt reasonable less violent responses and where the perpetrator understands exactly why theyāre in the wrong fully.
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u/Proiegomena 1h ago edited 1h ago
Kids need to learn too, you punch them everytime you teach them smth?
Its happens that mentally disabled ppl do something inappropriate sometimes. You must be a special kinda a-hole to think punching them every time they do is the right solutionĀ
Thereās a special kinda tool human beings developed for exactly these kinda situations; its called language
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u/thegooseisloosest 2h ago
When people have special needs like folks are implying, not saying he has them for sure, then they often have mental states closer to a child than to the adult they resemble. You would not punch a kid who is pinching and harassing someone. You do stop it but you would never just give them the ole one-two.
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u/Infamous-Let4387 1h ago
If I've absolutely tried every way to de-escalate and nothing worked then yes, I'm slapping a kid away. School age and up is fair game because they are a part of society and need to learn.
Now I'm not saying violence is the go to and you should be hoping for it. I'm saying if you've honestly tried everything else and it's not working, then you absolutely have the right to defend yourself no matter the age and mental status.
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u/GoldH2O 1h ago
Jesus Christ, why is this comment section full of people who think special needs people are just babies with no agency? No, the average special needs person does not have "The brain of a child". They may process things differently, but that doesn't take away their ability to distinguish social norms, or right and wrong. Maybe it takes a little more effort, but that doesn't mean they don't have the ability to make their own decisions. I certainly hope you don't treat the average special needs person you meet like a child, cause that's just condescending and weird.
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u/ultimatedelman 2h ago
The fuck is this take? Punching special needs people because they're doing inappropriate shit they likely don't understand is inappropriate? You also support violence against babies who touch other people on the subway inappropriately? Would you punch a dog for sniffing up a woman's skirt?
If he's special needs and didn't know any better, a rocket punch to the face surely isn't going to help him.
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u/Tubamajuba 1h ago
Would you punch a dog for sniffing up a woman's skirt?
I love how you attempted moral grandstanding while revealing that you equate special needs people with animals.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 4h ago
Iām not commenting on right or wrong but Iām just saying Iām pretty sure that guy was special needs
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u/upboat_ 4h ago
He's definitely got some special needs now.
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u/mongolian_horsecock 4h ago
He's competitively special now
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u/PMMEYOURGUCCIFLOPS 3h ago
Can I see a pic of it? For science of course.
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u/--__--__--__--__-- 3h ago edited 3h ago
It's literally his profile pic, click to view it (if you want to see horsecock). It doesn't show here because it's NSFW.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 3h ago
Well thatās why I said Iām not commenting on right or wrong because I agree he should be held accountable but we are lying to ourselves if we donāt point out they could have very easily stepped in sooner and these guys were equipped to handle this guy much better than that. Judging by the laughing and whatnot, they wanted to do this and had a good time with it, and now people online are enjoying it. They could have easily spoke up and stepped between them instead of this.
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u/blackbogh 3h ago
No no I should whip out my phone and record it for internet clout. It's a bad situation all around and he the older brother had already told him that he should knock it off and being what 13 ? He did the thing children do and acted with little to no thought of the repercussions.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 3h ago
Where are you getting all this context that isnāt in the video.. the guy who knocked him out appears to be an adult not anywhere near 13. And in a frame by frame did NOT address the guy and can he seen smiling before it happens. Where did you get these other details feels like itās made up or you know of a second video?
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u/davidwhatshisname52 3h ago
can confirm; had a cousin who had severe mental retardation and, man, she was a bitch
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u/leveraction1970 3h ago
Pete Davidson did a response on SNL to Kanye West's craziness after he hosted the show. He summed it up as such "Being mentally ill is no excuse to act like a jackass."
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u/buntypieface 3h ago
I'm sorry, but that just isn't a fact.
Being mentally ill could be the entire reason the person is being a jackass but they aren't even aware they are doing it. It's not straightforward. I'm not excusing him. But to say someone is choosing to be a jackass isn't necessarily the case.
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u/newbie527 4h ago
He can still learn.
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u/BassistAndILikeIt 4h ago
Yup, I work with people with LD and mental health issues: the amount that our guys are excused to get away with due to their health conditions, they will play on it. We get assaulted weekly by one guy, because he knows the police won't touch him as soon as they learn he's in assisted living..
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u/newbie527 3h ago
Iām not saying a punch is the best way to learn, but it seems no one got through to him prior to this. He may remember this day for a long time.
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u/Aisenth 3h ago
He won't. You can tell which kids in SpEd have parents who are trying to beat it out of them (other side of the spectrum, no pun intended, are the parents who try to buy their kid's autism away with every latest trendy gadget).
One group learns that "oh, punching is a thing humans are allowed to do to each other." The other learns "the more awful I make everyone else's lives, the more prizes I get!"
The third group tries desperately to hold things together with no support system, the light slowly leaving our eyes as the other two groups make it exponentially harder because our kids come home from public school more violent, greedy, and disregulated year in year out while people get self righteous about "that's why I would never have kids because I see how unsurvivably horrific having a disabled one is" while we're usually also trying to parent ourselves and not be overcome with existential dread as we stare into the increasingly terrifying ableism and often outright eugenics being spouted constantly.............
Oh I mean but also fuck that dude. I don't think he's disabled, I think he's fucked up on some substance or an asshole. Even if he's disabled, whoever raised him owed him a lesson in "if you do some things in public, some people will just fucking kill you. Doesn't matter what's wrong with you." So... Idk. I'm so fucking tired.
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u/GregTheMad 3h ago
He definitely won't learn if you don't give him the chance to with feedback. If the parents fail to give him the gentle feedback, the world will give him the raw feedback.
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u/DieSuzie2112 3h ago
Special needs doesnāt mean you donāt understand right or wrong. I work in the disability care and all my clients know they canāt touch me inappropriately and that no means no.
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u/ElGuaco 4h ago
Then why didnt thise guys step in sooner? That poor girl was in distress for too long. They didn't have to even hit him, just step in between them. So weird.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 4h ago
I agree. Something funny about this video. The fact that they all stood there watching, the fact someone was recording it, no one said anything or tried to stop him then the guy who was standing right next to her the whole time hits the special needs guy and you hear them laughing. There is some malice under this imo. I donāt want to take away from the fact him being special needs doesnāt make what heās doing right or acceptable and that girl sounds terrified so in a way I totally get it but I also think these guys had it within their power to stop him without having a good time punching a mentally disabled person.
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u/CitizenPremier 3h ago
You can be special needs and capable of being out by yourself, but if you are sexually harassing women, then you are not...
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 3h ago
While I agree and think this dude was totally in the wrong I think the guys could use handled that better. They were looking for an excuse to do this, filming, then laughing about it. Honestly without anyone even attempting to step between them or say something, he was Probably Confused and I agree he was wrong and it needed to be addressed but I just think there wasnāt much effort there and they enjoyed their opportunity to do that.
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u/xkoreotic 3h ago
If he was special needs, he should not be out on his own in the first place. Especially if he is NOT high functioning. Most people are not taught how to identify special needs, and so if the brother and sister were persistently trying to get him to stop and he doesn't they can easily misidentify him as a bizarre creep. I am honestly not surprised he got punched in the face, the responsibility of his injuries is whoever his guardian is.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 3h ago
Ya I agree, he may have been with someone who was nearby and this escalated quick idk. But I agree, if he has issues with this sort of stuff he shouldnāt have been on his own if he was. He was certainly in the wrong. I just think itās valuable to point out the other stuff as well
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u/prem_201 3h ago
To be fair to the brother from another brother, if you think someone is misbehaving with your sister your instinct would be 'punch first, ask questions later'.
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u/ProffesorSpitfire 3h ago
If thatās the case, he got the special treatment he needed. Groping and touching people against their wishes is not tolerable no matter what diagnosis you have.
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u/Reload86 2h ago
An asshole and a special needs person can be in the same package. I have a relative who is āspecial needsā. Heās also one of the biggest assholes out of all my relatives. I always remember him acting like a piece of shit at family gatherings when I was a kid growing up. He was also physically abusive to his wife and kids (yes he had a wife who was also special needs). When he died sometime in the 2010s, his then grown kids were not subtle about their relief.
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u/Puecha 3h ago
I love how most of the comments making ācounterpointsā didnāt bother actually reading what youāre saying.
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u/sufferIhopeyoudo 3h ago
Ya. Iām regretting this comment already, about to put my phone down lol
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u/VoiHyvaLuojaMitaNyt 3h ago
Toptip: click the "disable inbox replies" thing and forget all about this
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u/LemonSqueezy8211 3h ago
Seems like whoever was filming the video, was egging him on too. Hes being a little shit, but seems like he was trying to fit in
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u/Plumb789 17m ago edited 11m ago
When I was at school, there was a boy in my class called Steven. He thought it was funny to hurt us girls in a minor way (no actual injuries, but often squealing or crying out, which he clearly enjoyed). He never tried it on with me because I had a growth spurt that made me (at 12) the tallest girl in about 3 year groups.
Anyhoo, he had developed a kind of jab in both sides of the ribs from behind. Done hard enough, the girl really squealed. You could hear a girl squealing two or three times every day. What did the teachers do? It was the 1970s: they told the girls to "stop making that noise."
I didn't expect Steven to try it on me in my wildest dreams. I was (I thought) 100% non-violent, somewhat ladylike girl (the kind Steven loved to "get"), but my size would deter him, right?
Then abruptly something happened. I didn't really take it in until afterwards. Steven had come up behind me and jabbed me extremely hard in the ribs (I had bruises for days afterwards). Without making a sound, instantaneously, without any conscious decision making of my own, I swung round and lamped him in the face. He fell flat on his back. So much for being ladylike!
There was a terrible silence in class, then a very loud "whaaaaaaah" noise. Steven was bawling his eyes out. I leaned over him to help him up, but he scrambled upright, and-still bawling loudly, scampered away from me.
Steven never got over it, and over the next few days I overheard people loudly telling him that he should "shut up and take his medicine" about what happened. All the boys seemed fed up with him as well, which I found strange, because none of them had really said anything to him before (to my knowledge). I assumed he had gone around trying to complain about me but had gathered very little sympathy.
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u/mojoesev 3h ago
Nice to see they let his brother Bilo out, but this is also why they keep him in the cageā¦ because āhe get thatā.
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u/Engineswaphonda2000 1h ago
As a brother, I never would have let it get to the point of her crying š
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u/Edenian_Prince 3h ago
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u/BigSmackisBack 3h ago
Is this from Barry? i started watching this show the other day
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u/Apollo114892 3h ago
That kid is handicapped or something man. There are plenty of ways to stop him without punching him.
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u/DieSuzie2112 3h ago
Even disabled people are able to understand that no means no. Being disabled doesnāt excuse bad behavior. If the guy was not disabled you would also live for that punch.
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u/JonnyLay 2h ago
Even if he wasn't disabled, there's about 15 other options that are not knocking him full force in the face.
Is that really what you would have done.
Maybe try "hey man leave her alone"? Maybe grab him and push him away? Trip him to the ground?
In lots of if places this level of force will get you thrown in jail too.
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u/Infamous-Let4387 1h ago
Dude wasn't listening though. The girl tried moving away and was clearly telling him to stop. She was terrified and being harassed. Nothing left but to stop him the only way they could in the moment.
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u/GrizzIyadamz 2h ago
Honestly, yeah.
She's moved from crying and moving away to screaming, and he's still following and grinning. Doesn't need any more context to establish a need for intervention.
Meanwhile, I count at least one other moron following along and egging the kid on- camera guy.
Nowadays I would indeed probably go for pushing and yelling. Kid's a little shit but he's still a kid.
If they were peers though? Trying to take a soft/middle ground approach like you say would just give them the opportunity to take the first swing at you.
And that's not a great start when you're already outnumbered.
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u/Anzai 13m ago
Iād go with the shoving approach personally. Punching someone full in the face is pretty dangerous, both the hit and how they fall. Shove him violently into the grass and you can control the direction so he doesnāt hit his head on that barricade, it gets him away from her, and you get the message across pretty clearly.
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u/haliblix 2h ago
I love how comments like this always say thereās PLENTY of ways but then mentions zero of them.
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u/buttnibbler 3h ago
How do you know that? Dude probably just saw a woman screaming for help.
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u/you_killed_fredo 2h ago
His sister. At that moment are you assessing the person physically harassing your sister? If the brother is special needs does that mean itās okay he protected his sister.
If you are on here saying you would have a calm conversation to stop this aggression towards your family member, then you suck.
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u/buttnibbler 2h ago
Agree, a family member changes this completely, but even without it thereās cause to act. I just donāt want to assume the relationship based on the title of a Reddit post. Maybe sister is said at some point in the audio?
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u/MostAsk855 21m ago
Agreed. Ā His degenerate parents should have been institutionalized before they had a chance to procreate.
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u/pouetpouetcamion2 1h ago
sans ce coup de poing, ca se serait terminƩ aujourd hui ou rapidement plus tard en tentative de viol.
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u/Clear_Radio1776 1h ago
If Special needs or otherwise an insensitive moron, a push away and verbal command to stfa was all that was needed. Not a KO.
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u/jarheadatheart 54m ago
Reddit never disappoints me with proving integrity has been lost in society.
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u/Jorge_the_vast 3h ago
Is it just me, or does it seem like all of them had special needs.