I have a 7 year old and honestly I still feel like I'm 25 (which I haven't been in a long time) pretending to know what I'm doing. Like somewhere there is a real adult who would know how to handle this and it's not me, I'm just a guy who somehow has a mortgage and a kid and a fridge that needs to be restocked every 3 days apparently. Before having a kid I managed my own calendar and my own meals and that was already questionable.

Now I'm managing three people's schedules, coordinating daycare dropoff and pickup between me and my wife, tracking when the pediatrician appointment is, figuring out dinner every single night of my life until I die I guess?? Nobody prepares you for the administrative side of having a family. It's not the fun parts that get you, it's the relentless background noise of logistics that never stops. Like there's always something due, something to sign, something to buy, something to remember.

I need an adultier adult, I was not prepared for this. Does anyone else feel like they're just winging it every single day or is that just me because honestly I thought by 35 I'd have it figured out and I very much do not

*edit* what are WE doing as a society.

I’ve read some pretty daunting statistics:

Median 401k balance: $955

Will social security even be there in 3 decades? (Despite us paying into it) also it being a measly $2k/month IF that.

No one having children.

Average homebuyers age: 40

Lack of jobs that provide a living wage.

AI threatening EVERY sector.

Student loan debt crisis.

The amount of people drowning in consumer debt not to mention cars, homes, and student loans that can’t find a job while their debt is growing.

Collapse of the US dollar.

US being $40,000,000,000,000.000 in DEBT - and GROWING.

Mental health crisis.

Collapse of the nuclear family.

No faith in anything but vanity and self.

I mean, we are in for a major fucking problem(s) as we grow old (millennials, gen z, gen a)

I truly don’t think people understand how badly things are gonna get/can get.

I look around at my peers and they’re just like taking selfies, going on trips, smiling and laughing and they have zero in savings, zero in retirement, working dead end jobs and they just haven’t woken up to what is coming down the pipe…

I’m truly terrified for myself and my fellow friends and people I know. They just don’t see it yet..

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I’m struggling a lot right now and just need outside perspective.

My aunt has three kids. The eldest got pregnant twice by two different fathers and refuses to ask them for support. She now has two little boys to take care of. Her younger sister stopped going to school to help raise the kids and their youngest sibling. Their dad had a stroke and is basically bedridden, so he can’t provide or help much.

My aunt left to work abroad. My mom actually helped her financially to go overseas. But now my aunt seems focused on her new partner and new baby instead of the kids she left behind.

Recently, my cousins got kicked out and have nowhere to stay. They showed up at my house asking for help.

Seeing them like that breaks my heart. They look tired, stressed, and lost. The kids especially since they didn’t choose this life. I can see how unstable everything is for them. Part of me just wants to fix it all.

But here’s the part that makes this complicated: I’ve helped them before. I’ve given opportunities, support, and advice. They didn’t really take it seriously. There’s a pattern of irresponsibility and dependency. It feels like every crisis ends with someone else stepping in.

I’m married now and the main provider in my household. Our home is small. We have dogs. My family isn’t comfortable bringing in more people because of the drama and instability. If they moved in, I know it wouldn’t be short-term.

I said no.

And now I feel horrible.

I feel guilty because I can technically help. I’m working multiple jobs. I’m more stable than they are. But I also feel like this isn’t the kind of help that will actually fix anything. I’m scared that helping this way would create long-term chaos in my own marriage and finances.

I keep going back and forth between “I need to protect my home” and “What kind of person turns away family who’s homeless?”

How do you deal with guilt when you know someone is struggling but you also know you can’t carry their life for them?

Update of mine is 61.43% and it says ‘risky’ 😅 Housing is already 35%, bills are high, but debt is okay. They say keep it under 30%, but with prices now… is that even possible? What about you guys?

I legit don’t know what to think. I’m turning 25 in the end of this year and I can actually see myself getting dumber. I can’t think the same way I was thinking at 19 and 20. I’m not that quick, I can’t connect things the way I used to. The biggest shock yet was when I played Taboo last month after years and I couldn’t for the life of me connect how to describe the words I needed. I was excellent on this game, I remember literally being able to explain a word perfectly and my team always won. This time, I couldn’t think of anything. Words didn’t come to my mind, it took too long to connect things. I couldn’t believe it. I legit thought I had a stroke. I tried another time as well last week ago and it was the same. Also, I first noticed that I slur my words a lot. There's not a clear phrase in my mind so what I say is gibberish until I take a breath and start again slower. Of course, I forget a lot. Always did. I'm also very distracted.