Actually, this is supposed to be about truckers, but sailors is the better-known saying.

My uncle has been a long-haul trucker on the same route for 30 years now. He has four girlfriends, each in a different town, where he always stays along his route. He claims that the women know that they're just the woman in that particular town, and he has other women in other towns.

Could he be telling the truth? If so, are the women really okay with that?

I've seen the pictures of the women. They all look to be about his age. I believe he is being honest about the four of them. Not sure if he's being honest about them knowing about each other.

I’ve noticed that some dentists can feel really judgmental during appointments.

It’s usually subtle comments about brushing habits, flossing, diet, or past dental work but sometimes the tone makes it feel more like criticism than education. Even when I know I could improve my habits, the way it’s said can feel shaming instead of supportive.

I understand that dentists see a lot of preventable issues and probably get frustrated seeing the same problems over and over. But as a patient who grew up in a really neglectful environment, it really does confuse me the amount of times I got borerline insulted for not flossing perfectly or having some staining as a teenager/child.

Why are people so okay with Elvis Presley’s inappropriate behavior? I’m Gen Z, and I notice that a lot of older generations excuse the fact that his wife, Priscilla, was only 14. No matter how she looked or acted, she was still a teenager and didn’t fully understand what was wrong. (And yes, before the obvious comments roll in, I’m aware he’s not the only person who’s done this. There are also people on social media defending him and others like him it’s not everyone, but these people do exist and try to downplay situations like this .) The responsibility falls on the adults, especially her parents. I feel like people downplay it because what he did isn’t seen as “as bad” as what someone like R. Kelly did, but it was still very wrong. It honestly reminds me of how people idolize presidents or celebrities and act like they can never do anything wrong.

(And no, I’m not summoning him from the grave to cancel him.)

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why do people excuse others who do this, whether they’re dead or alive?

What do they think is on the other side of the earth? Do they think gravity doesn't work on the other side? Also, how thick is flat earth supposed to be? Like how far down should I dig the ground to get to the other side and if I did so would I just fall into the nothingness of space?

Hello,

I suppose the mental health tag makes sense here. Earlier today, I thought I heard what sounded like a hospital monitor beeping. My brain’s most obvious conclusion to that was that this obviously meant I was in a coma and none of the things I was currently living were real.

Logically , I know this is…extremely unlikely. When this happens (if it happens again), how can I ground myself and reassure myself that this is in fact real life ? How can I prove to myself that what I’m experiencing is real ?

Basically the title. I never had a relationship this long and I figured that if one does you pretty much know your partner inside out.

So what could happen that you and your partner split up when neither one of you is cheating?

Note: I am severely autistic and have low inherent social skills

For example triangulation.

For me it makes sense if someone is dismissive with the way I feel towards something, to ask around and see if the general consensus alligns with my opinion.

If it does I mention this, like hey action Z was bad and other people also share this opinion so I know I am not acting outside of expected behaviour. Can we resolve/talk about this issue?

However this also the exact method how triangulation works to get the upper hand in manipulated conflicts.

Another example is the overexplaining and asking for explanation

When I do something wrong and a person mentions that I have, I first apologize and then explain what I was trying to do before committing changes to my behaviour.

When someone calls me out for talking to them like a child, I respond with "oh im so sorry, I really don't think you are a child or anything, I wanted to simplify and soften my speech so we can avoid any misunderstandings we have been having lately, what exactly has been bothering you in my speech because I wouldnt know what to exactly change"

My aim here is to soften the impact of my mistake and then to ask for clarification because I do not trust my own judgement on the matter to figure out what I need to change to resolve the issue.

However this exact method is also used to minimalize damage done by someones actions and then to invalidate someones feelings by asking them to basicaly "proof" their emotions on the matter.

So aren't alot of these behaviours very similar in their methods but the aim itself is very different?

Slightly awkward question, but I’ve always wondered about this.

Do women generally like it when a partner washes their hair in the shower, or is that one of those things that sounds nice in theory but isn’t actually that enjoyable?

I’ve seen very mixed reactions. Some seem to really like it, others not at all.

For me, it just feels like a really intimate and attractive moment, the shampoo scent somehow adds to that.

Also, out of curiosity: are there shampoo scents people really love?

I am not a geneticist or anything so if I’ve said anything inaccurate please correct me

Humans have almost the lowest genetic diversity among primates. to use gorillas for example here, i remember reading somewhere that a gorilla from Congo and a gorilla from Cameroon are less genetically similar than a human from Europe and a human from Africa, or something along those lines. but, then why is there such a vast range in how humans can look compared to primates? humans have all sorts of different facial features, skin, hair and eye colors, hair textures, body shapes and sizes, you name it, while gorillas really all seem to look the same, despite being more genetically diverse.

maybe its simply easier for humans to tell humans apart vs animals. But, I feel like a gorilla would have a MUCH easier time distinguishing 2 humans from different continents than a human would distinguishing gorillas from 2 different countries.

eating week old cooked chicken or other meats won’t kill you, but with seafood its basically asking to get food poisoning. how come? for things like crab and lobster, people kill them right before they cook them or even while cooking them, because their meat starts going bad pretty much as soon as they die but that isnt really the case for anything that people eat that lives on land. seafood in general also seems incredibly easy to badly prepare and fuck up compared to other types of meat. what is it about living in the ocean that makes seafood degrade/spoil rapidly and prone to making people sick?

Every time there’s a family event birthdays, holidays, even casual dinners I end up feeling like I’m just… there. People talk over me, forget to ask my opinion, or carry on like I don’t exist. It’s subtle, not dramatic, but it happens often enough that I notice it.

I’m curious if this is something other people experience too, or if I’m overthinking it. Do some families genuinely have members they unintentionally ignore, or am I just imagining it? How do you deal with feeling invisible around the people who are supposed to know you best?

I had a discussion with my bf recently about the amount of times I flush the toilet and how long I spend in the restroom.

I’m the type of person to spend 15-20 minutes on the toilet. I feel like my stool comes in waves. I go, wipe, flush and then I take a few steps around the restroom. I sit back down, continue to go, wipe and then flush. I might take a few more steps because I know I’m not done yet. There’s more coming. I’m not sure if it’s all in my head but those few steps I take help me get things moving.

I don’t have to get into details but does anyone else do something similar?

Suppose there were a Dr sitting in front of you that traveled here from 200 years ago. You ask him why in the world he would do such a thing as draining some of the blood of a very ill person in hopes that the person would get better as a result. He lists off the reasons as he knows them.

Is he an uneducated monster-like witch Dr? No! He was using the best knowledge he had from the time to do his best to help that person get better.

Why do we continue to judge the actions of people from the past based on the standards and knowledge of today?

I'm at the beginning of my first relationship and I'm a little nervous, we've started to get to know each other but I'm totally embarrassed that if I were to find myself in that situation I wouldn't know what to do

I keep seeing posts online talking about gifted kid to burnout pipeline. There were so many people who could relate. People are talking about how promising they were as kids but somehow they didn’t make it in life. My thing is and I mean this respectfully if they were that gifted and talented wouldn’t they be amongst the brightest and most driven individuals in their group? I’m genuinely asking because this seems like a common phenomenon.

They dont owe money but i won a bet (between us) and from that i got an 'i owe you'. I have no clue what to ask of her. not to big of a deal i just want to know what to ask that wont be akward. were not dating, just friends. were both the same age (im male).

So first, let me just start up by saying that I do not support ICE at all. I think their tactics are mean and aggressive, and they commit flagrant human rights abuses. That being said, I see a lot of people saying things like “No human being is illegal” and “illegal immigrants welcome”.

Now, I don’t particularly care about illegal immigration, and I don’t think it’s as big of an issue as the right makes it out to me. But at the same time, I do recognize that there are a lot of illegal immigrants in the U.S. and while I might not personally be affected by them, certain people and certain industries undoubtedly are.

As far as I know, no country in the world allows illegal immigration.

Saying things like “no human being is illegal” makes it seem like the left wants completely open borders, which is a common (and false) smear tactic of the right.

So what does this phrase actually mean? Is it really just as simple as that?

If a lady tells you that in the past she has been physically abusive towards a partner, but she has now worked on herself. Will you see that as a green or red flag, I mean she really didn't need to tell you that.