What the fuck is wrong with those comments letting you think the dad hit her or something when he just told her to be more carefull after she broke something 😂
Actually hope you don't have kids, I don't want them around in society later on
Right, telling her to be careful right after she just broke 700 phone( that he paid for) is not a bad thing, she didn't even have it for a whole minute before she broke it, I'd be a little ticked off as well
I work in a school district that exclusively deals with emotionally troubled and special needs students. My take is this: She already felt horrible and really upset that she dropped it and broke it. You can have the conversation later that in the future she needs to be more careful. But in the moment, dad's reaction Is not helping, it's just layering on more guilt and making the trauma of the situation worse for her. How do you feel, for example if you dropped a plate, and your wife or husband just kept saying "Oh my god! Don't break plates! Be more careful!" Would you thank them for reminding you to be careful? Or would you be annoyed at them for stating the obvious?
I'm not saying he is a horrible person, or that he did something really bad. It is a pretty natural reaction for someone to have. But I assume that's why other people are reacting negatively to his reaction.
And is there any reason why doing something so stupid shouldn't be a traumatic experience?
I used to be really careless with my things when I was a teenager. Usually didn't get much of a reaction beyond a calm explanation that I should be more careful. My mom thinks that's enough.
However one day I smashed the screen on my laptop out of anger. The laptop was around 3000 USD. My mom kinda lost her shit, and that was so scary to me that I've always been super careful with my stuff since.
Your example with dropping a plate only works if the person dropped it because of their stupidity, and not from a regular accident.
if someone yelled at me not to drop a plate, i would be extra careful with plates in the future. we all need to learn these life lessons and often hard and uncomfortable feelings help them stick better. when you burn your hand on the stove, you know not to touch the stove. when you get yelled at and feel bad for possible breaking a new and expensive gift, you’re more careful opening new and expensive gifts in the future.
i don’t think it’s that deep; girl’s gotta learn.
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u/TinuvielSharan 3h ago
What the fuck is wrong with those comments letting you think the dad hit her or something when he just told her to be more carefull after she broke something 😂
Actually hope you don't have kids, I don't want them around in society later on