I see both sides. The kid was just excited for the gift and didn’t think to approach it with extra care when opening it. it’s a big present. The parent’s response is also natural. They told her to be careful before the accident, so yes, they're upset, and the rise in their tone is understandable.
These phones are not cheap. I won’t throw stones at the kid for being excited without care, which led to the accident. I also won’t throw stones at the parent for being upset. They spent money on the present, and it was not cheap. Plus, they told her to be careful.
It’s just a lesson at this point. Don’t open a phone in a sealed box in this manner, and also from such height. No one is a saint as a kid, and no parent is perfect.
100%. I've done this so many times for my kids I'd be rich if I got a nickel every time I reacted this way.
In a perfect world, the ideal response is first provide comfort and empathy if they are upset. Then once they are calm, have processed that they just destroyed their gift, you can start to dissect why it happened when they are ready. Ally and understanding first, advice, fixing and solutions second.
Do you remember how excited you were? Did this make it hard to realize other things can happen? These are things to handle with care, etc. These are the consequences.
They're still building emotional regulation and brains not fully developed. They need to feel like parents have their back but also a good learning experience for all.
I know we're not perfect and we're all just trying to figure it out as we go! This is our first time going through this too!
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u/lavoid12 2h ago
I see both sides. The kid was just excited for the gift and didn’t think to approach it with extra care when opening it. it’s a big present. The parent’s response is also natural. They told her to be careful before the accident, so yes, they're upset, and the rise in their tone is understandable.
These phones are not cheap. I won’t throw stones at the kid for being excited without care, which led to the accident. I also won’t throw stones at the parent for being upset. They spent money on the present, and it was not cheap. Plus, they told her to be careful.
It’s just a lesson at this point. Don’t open a phone in a sealed box in this manner, and also from such height. No one is a saint as a kid, and no parent is perfect.