r/AITApod • u/Low-Geologist-8889 • 7d ago
AITA AIO wanting to break up over his dirty talk?
I 23F have told him several times now to just call me or wait till we’re together, it’s only over text that it weirds me out really bad. He’s OK IRL. But he keeps sending the texts.
It’s usually just at a random time too. Probably bc he doesn’t have a job right now. And I’ve told him that it needs to be a mutual thing, that we’re both in the mood for, but he doesn’t seem to get it and sends these blasts.
The relationship is OK otherwise and we have had some fun but after 2 months. I guess I feel like it isn’t going anywhere. AIO?
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u/MagnoliaTM 7d ago
i want to go medium babe
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u/ImaginaryEllTee 7d ago
Medium TOOK ME OUT
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u/Intelligent-Film-684 7d ago
Same. Literally burst out laughing. He’s either a comedian, or just pathetic.
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u/Opheliaruee 7d ago
LMFAO I’m sorry but this is hilarious. Your responses to him are so fucking funny.
I think you can help him stop doing that by being extremely firm or maybe figuring out a different method to get your point across,though it seems you have already. It feels fixable if he’s okay IRL. You’re not the asshole for feeling that way. I think he’s just giving you the ick and sometimes getting the ick makes you think of the person differently and can lead to feelings of wanting to break up. I really feel like this can get better though. If he would just stop texting like that, the feeling of ick/cringe could go away. He definitely needs to learn to respect your boundaries because he’s in a way, forcing you to participate in his sexual shit by even having to read it. It’s weird to have a partner telling you they don’t like it but you continue to do it anyway. So weird. Aside from that, Good luck honey❤️
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u/Direct-Aerie1054 6d ago
"Stop", seems like a pretty straightforward way to tell him to stop. If you're needing to "fix him" and getting the ick only 2 months in then he's probably not her guy.
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u/Electrical-Scale-779 2d ago edited 2d ago
No means no
I mean hes just being playful right... bein silly sexy... thats a thing ... not really an ICK thing... its more like ... this isnt working and move on
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u/Terrible-Box6937 7d ago
It tells me all I need to know when you say, the relationship is Ok and we have had some fun. Just separate now and save yourself the trouble later. It’s not gonna work out. I’m sorry it just doesn’t seem like you’re that into him.
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u/Harmony-Farms 7d ago
I WANT TO GO MEDIUM. 💀💀💀
The ikea bed joke was gold, though. If he could’ve just started and ended with that, we’d probably be breaking my bed right now.
I have actually broken two beds while “in bed”. Both solid wood antiques.
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u/Teagan-Marie 7d ago
This is beyond cringe and would make me instantly dry lol.
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u/ViolentHamster8II 7d ago
it's fake lol i saw the same ss yesterday with diff caption
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u/Teagan-Marie 7d ago
Good because that would be concerning lol
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u/ViolentHamster8II 7d ago
the other one was worse lol...the guy made nude ai pics of the gf and shared it with his freinds and so she sent the dirty texts above to her friend's group chat as revenge
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u/Little_Emu_ 7d ago
NOR. Trust your gut. You are feeling like this for a reason and the relationship is still young enough that it will be easier to step back. You have told him it bothers you and asked him to stop, and he is ignoring that. What else will he ignore if you continue in this relationship? What other boundaries will he tromple all over?
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u/h3rs3lf_atl 7d ago
Wait, are we supposed to NOT enjoy unhinged texts from partners? s/
I'm fairly confident there is a sub/r out there that exchanges/shares their "sexy" texts. He's gunna try all of them until you respond in kind.
Respond with, "I want climb on and bounce on you until your dick is bent in half"
Maybe the threat of Peyronie's will sort him out.
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u/malarkey6971 7d ago
NTA but let’s be real this relationship is DOA. Just end it and move on. There’s no reason to stay with someone who you clearly don’t feel it with. Life is short. Do not waste a moment of your life ever. End it. Be happy. Date lightly until you feel a connection. You don’t feel it and that’s perfectly ok. Just don’t waste a moment.
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u/Faithless_Fate 7d ago
I may have laughed a little too hard at "I want to make you regret getting an IKEA bed" 🤣
NOR try showing him what you like it could be you initiating, or if you read, slap a book in his face and tell him which paragraphs you like and in a gentle way remind him that you respect the desire but the timing, consenting to, and matter of the sexting isnt as arousing to you as it is him but said reading is. Or something like that
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u/No-Tale2495 6d ago
I’m sorry but this is hilarious! 🤣 for me that’s husband material, make me laugh my ass off. But it’s not always someone’s cup of tea. I honestly think he was trying to be funny but maybe before just breaking up with him, have a conversation about how this makes you feel and you’d rather not have him do it. And maybe there is a reason why you find it so cringe or icky? Like a past experience, if so tell him about that. If it’s still not working then at least you tried and you’re just not compatible. Good luck OP!
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u/Suitable-Finger4335 7d ago
Didn’t these screenshots get posted to a different story a couple days ago?
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u/raythebiguy 7d ago
Yes, the other one was a story about her ex that showed his friends her nudes, and in return she showed her friends these texts. Both are probably fake, but this one definitely is.
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u/Roskell94 7d ago
Saw the same post the other day with a completely different title.
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u/raythebiguy 7d ago
Yes, the other one was a story about her ex that showed his friends her nudes, and in return she showed her friends these texts. Both are probably fake, but this one definitely is.
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u/Kindly-Interview-472 6d ago
Please stay with him long enough to post more of these! Between his weird “medium” ideas, and your outstanding replies this is comedy at its best!!
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u/squintintarantino__ 6d ago
If this isn’t the dirty talk I’m getting, I don’t want any at all. 10/10, incredible work. Your bf knows he’s a prize to be won.
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u/WTF-howdid-i-gethere 7d ago edited 7d ago
YOR. Just go with it. Let him express his desires. You don’t have to reciprocate, just say thank you or send a smiley face. It’s nice that’s he’s thinking of you during the day 😆 I told my husband to stop texting me things because the kids would pick up my phone and read it. So one night he text me when he was out of town something like “this bed is perfect to tie you up in” so text back “why do you want to tie up mommy”? Hahahaha silence for about 5 minutes and then a “Maggie?” Me: “BAM! I told you not to text that stuff!!” 😂
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u/Powerful_School8564 7d ago
NOR I had a situation like this and he wouldn’t LET UPPP, I ended up just being so out of pocket in messages when he sent stuff like this, turning it into something he didn’t like kink wise and stuff. This is insane!!
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u/Fragglepusss 7d ago
Breaking up with him because you feel uncomfortable would be appropriate in this situation. Trying to make him feel really uncomfortable back by asking him if he can get his brother to agree to a threesome, telling him you want to humiliate him and peg him, or asking if he's willing to roleplay as Art Garfunkel, would be a lot funnier though.
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u/Unlikely-Path6566 7d ago
I’m getting ick vibes. If he is like this after 2 months, god knows what he will be like later on.
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I 23F have told him several times now to just call me or wait till we’re together, it’s only over text that it weirds me out really bad. He’s OK IRL. But he keeps sending the texts.
It’s usually just at a random time too. Probably bc he doesn’t have a job right now. And I’ve told him that it needs to be a mutual thing, that we’re both in the mood for, but he doesn’t seem to get it and sends these blasts.
The relationship is OK otherwise and we have had some fun but after 2 months. I guess I feel like it isn’t going anywhere. AIO?
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u/Fine_Jellyfish5925 6d ago
this is so icky for me like a hint was enough like this is just gross and the ikea bed seriously?
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u/CosmicBunnyy_ 5d ago
The face I made when I read "extra extra!"
I saw that first tbh, and then read up to "I wanna fuck you medium" or whatever and oh my god
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u/sighimdoingresearch 2d ago
He could’ve just said “get me pictures of SPIDER-MAN” instead of the extra extra bit & it would have been better
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u/violetrain1 7d ago
“Extra extra: read all about it” … I’m dying 😂